Study Says Women Put In More Work in Relations Than Men, Happier When Single


One of the biggest things that annoyed me growing up was that my parents told me I needed to act a certain way to attract and keep a husband. Even at a young age, I knew that many parents did not teach their sons to strive to get wives, and even those parents who pushed their male children to get married did not usually force them to fit into a narrow box, the way that women are taught to be dutiful wives.

It is widely accepted that men only settle down after they've achieved their dreams but women often give up themselves in order to find a man and start a family. While I've always thought that this was unfair, I also accepted this as a truth in life. Well, it turns out that a study has proven that yes women really do invest more in relationships, and here's the kicker.... the majority of women are happier when single.

Now I enjoy being single, but I also enjoy being in loving relationships. But that's the thing. A loving relationship is awesome, but some people are in relationships just to be in relationships, and according to a study from Mintel, it's the women who put in the majority of the work in these crap bag situations.

Mintel said that 61% of women are happy being single, and that 75% of single women were not actively looking for a relationship last year. The reason? Relationships are a lot of work, and women put in more effort and labor than men.

“There’s evidence that women spend longer on domestic tasks than men and I think they also do more emotional work - so they still do more housework and cooking and things as well as more emotional labor,” Professor Emily Grundy, of the University of Essex, told The Telegraph.

Women also spend a lot of effort and time on upkeep like grooming and shopping to maintain her man's interest, and while some women genuinely enjoy that, it's a fucking drag when the purpose of upkeep is to stop your man from whining or getting a wandering eye.

Grundy explained that women are also happier than men at being single because women maintain friendships where they get emotional support, while men use their female partners as their sounding board.

“Women tend to be better at having alternative social networks and other confidantes whereas men tend to rely quite heavily on their wives for that and have fewer other social ties,” Dr. Grundy said. “Certainly there’s a common finding from a lot of studies that women who don’t have a partner tend to do more social activities and more friends compared to women with partners whereas with men it’s the reverse - men without a partner tend to do much less of that. So it may be that women have a wider range of alternatives.”

So what can we learn from this study? After all, as an advocate for coupling up, I want people to find true love. BUT I want people to enter satisfying relationships, and if women are doing the bulk of the work with no appreciation, then that isn't going to fly and that needs to change. So for all the men out there that want to attract a quality woman, consider an equal partnership or do the BDSM-way and discuss your roles before you enter a relationship.