Most People Try Dating Out of Their League


If we were given a survey about ourselves, most of us would probably think we were more special than we were. We'd think we were richer. We'd think we were funnier. We'd think we were better looking. And maybe because of this false confidence, we tend to shoot our shots and go for partners out of our league. 

Sometimes this works. Most of the time, it doesn't.

This summer, a study published in Science Advances said that online daters are constantly going for people better than them. In fact, they spend most of their time contacting people out of their league.

Researchers looked at thousands of messages between straight men and women on a popular, free online dating platform, and they saw that most daters tended to contact people 25% more desirable than them. 

Online daters spent most of their time being ambitious, but sometimes they went for people similar in desirability. However, people rarely dated down, which also means that those pursuing people at the top were not successful. The study's author, Dr. Elizabeth Bruch of the University of Michigan, said that men were the ones who were the most aspirational.

Men mostly initiate contact on dating websites, and they tend to go for the same women, which signals that those women are the most desirable. Women tend to rarely respond to messages they get, and the researchers used their response rates to determine what males were deemed the most attractive. 

Women Over 30 May No Longer Need Pap Smears


All women know what it's like to get a pap smear. How awkward it is to put your feet up in stirrups as a doctor probes your vagina with a cold speculum. It's invasive and uncomfortable, and for women over 30, it's a practice that may be coming to an end.

NBC News wrote that the US Preventive Services Task Force released recommendations this summer that most women may opt out of pap smears. Women over 30 can safely wait five years in between tests, and they can take the HPV test instead.

Women under 30 should still get Pap smears but the organization said that it only has to be done every three years, unless recommended by a doctor.

The new recommendations were made because of evidence that cervical cancer was caused by HPV and that the HPV test was sufficient enough to spot the virus.

Men Enjoy Sex with Emotionally Unstable Women

Women are attracted to bad boys, and men like crazy women. This may change with age, but a new study shows that unagreeable men and mentally unstable women are better in bed, which gives a pretty compelling reason why people date weirdos. This research is one of the first of its kind that shows a linkage between personality and sexual performance, according to the New York Post

German researchers polled about 1,000 participants who were in long-term relationships. They found that women had better sex with less agreeable men who were also conscientious. These lovers tended to care about their needs and showed dominance. Meanwhile, males reported better sex with unstable women. 

This explains why Eddie Fisher chose Liz Taylor over Debbie Reynolds. Why Aaron Carter picked Lindsay Lohan over Hillary Duff. And so on and so on. 

The study was published in the Journal of Sex Research, and was led by Julia Velten. 

Tuesdays with T.Lo: What Should You Do To Have a Great First Date?



The Daily T.Lo Presents: Tuesdays with T.Lo (Season 1, Episode 4) Hookup culture was trendy for a while, but ultimately, it’s lack of rules and structure leaves its daters feeling confused and unsatisfied. Author Teresa Lo argues that for singles to be happier in the dating world they should return to traditional courtship and “old-fashioned” dating. In this episode, T.Lo outlines everything you need to know to have a good first date. This includes: What should happen on a first date? Who should pay for a first date? What should you wear on a first date? Where should daters go to maximize romance? AND Should you hook up on a first date?

Is The Sunken Cost Effect The Reason You Are Staying in a Bad Relationship?


Have you ever waited in line for twenty minutes, but you decide to not switch lanes because you've already invested so much time in one? Have you ever stayed at a slot machine where you've lost hundreds of dollars, thinking if you kept playing you'd maybe win back your cash? Or have you ever been dating someone you find incredibly boring, but you won't leave because that'd mean an end of an era, even a lame one?

In any of these cases, you're suffering from the Sunken Cost Effect. This is a term found in the business world that describes people stupidly sticking with something doomed to fail because they've already invested time, money, or energy.

“The sunk cost effect is the general tendency for people to continue an endeavor, or continue consuming or pursuing an option, if they’ve invested time or money or some resource in it,” said Christopher Olivola, an assistant professor of marketing at Carnegie Mellon’s Tepper School of Business. “That effect becomes a fallacy if it’s pushing you to do things that are making you unhappy or worse off.”

In the examples above, we can see how foolish it is for the people to stay, but when we ourselves are in similar situations, it's hard to realize we're afraid to let go.

For people in relationships, the longer they date or are married the harder it is to separate, even if the relationship makes the partners miserable. Lovers stuck in the Sunken Cost Effect sometimes don't want to admit their own failures or they are afraid that others will judge them, so they fight for a relationship that could already be over.

In the end, it is wiser for both parties to end their bad relationship, no matter how difficult that action actually is. The longterm future gain will surpass any resources lost, and that future gain is, you guessed it, your happiness. 

And there's no price on that.

New Study Says Female Online Daters Peak at 18. Is This for Real?

When it comes to dating, men and women have different problems. Men worry that women only want them for their dough, and women worry that men don't want them after a certain age. Well, it turns out that the latter is actually true.

A new study published in the journal, Science Advances, found that the desirability of female online daters peaked at 18! Meanwhile, men's desirability peaked at 50.

What?!?

The researchers studied the online dating messages of almost 200,000 heterosexual people, and their findings echoed one from Okcupid that was published in 2010. Okcupid stated that men who were 22-30 preferred to date women younger than them, so you betcha that included teenagers...

“The age gradient for women definitely surprised us — both in terms of the fact that it steadily declined from the time women were 18 to the time they were 65, and also how steep it was,” Elizabeth Bruch, an associate professor of sociology at the University of Michigan and an author of the study, said, according to the New York Times. 

Okcupid's study found that as men get older, their age preferences for women stayed the same, widening the gap. Unfortunately, that means for older women, it's true that their dating pool lessens as their male peers seek youth, which evolutionary biologists believe suggests fertility. 

So all those movies that joke about first wives getting annoyed that their ex-husbands have a woman half his age are actually steeped in reality....I guess you only have to look at Donald Trump, Kelsey Grammar, Larry King, or any man who's married multiple times to see this actually happens IRL. 

According to the new study, men care about physical attractiveness first. Unlike women, they don't have a strong interest in a mate's earning potential or power. Basically, women want intelligence and success. Men want youth and beauty. 

Now the study focused on desire, not actually what people could get or the chemistry that can develop between two daters. So older women and poor men still have a chance of love, that is until their settling partner's aspirations luck out.

Why do people cheat?

Being cheated on is one of the worst feelings in the world. Not only does it feel gross to know your partner was having sex with someone else, but the deception of it may actually be more hurtful than the sex itself.

But why do people cheat? It seems more respectful to either break up with someone or be up front that you want to see other people, but cheaters choose to lie instead. Some believe it's because they are bored in their relationships. Others think it's because of a sex addiction or not being pleasured enough at home. But a new study says that it has more to do with a person's desire to seek thrills or their past sexual experiences than any other factors.

Researchers at the University of Queensland said that impulsive people or people with a high number of sexual partners were the most likely to cheat. Their study was published in the British Journal of Psychology, and they focused their research on what were the main factors that indicated if a person was likely to stray. 

The researchers said that people who tended to act on impulse rather than logic were more likely to cheat because they did not have the willpower to stop themselves if tempted.

The researchers said that people with a large number of sexual partners were likely to cheat because they had the skill to suss out who was attracted to them and how to turn that attraction into sex. 

To conduct the study, researchers surveyed 123 young heterosexual people who were in relationships and asked them about their fidelity. Men revealed that they were likely to have sex when cheating, but men and women who cheated were equally likely to commit adultery by kissing.

New Study Suggests We're Attracted to People Like Our Parents


I'm sure we've all heard at least one person say, "I married him because he's like my father." And I'm sure at that point of our lives, we laughed at that statement or pretended to fake vomit into an imaginary trashcan after the person was done talking.

But it turns out, we really do fall in love with people similar to our early caregivers. For people with nurturing parents, this means that they'll continue their cycle of security. And unfortunately, for people with bad parents, that means they'll like jerks and end up in the kind of toxic relationships that severely harm our mental health.

A new study published in the Evolution and Human Behavior stated that our parents influence who we find attractive when we are grown.

In the study, almost 800 straight women were told to look at different male body types and then asked to describe which bodies resembled their most recent partner, their ideal partner, and the shape of their father when they were children. 

The study found an association between the women's partner preferences and the look of their dad. The preference for their dad's bod increased based on how positive an influence he was in the women's lives. 

Vice said that the recent study added more information to the theory that heterosexual people's parents or early caregivers influence who they find attractive. 

"Humans, like many animals, go through a sexual “imprinting” process at a young age. During a critical period in development, we learn to associate the traits of our caregivers with those of a desirable mate. The classic demonstration of this idea, if you’ve ever taken an introductory psychology course, comes from the research of Konrad Lorenz, who demonstrated imprinting processes among baby geese," Vice stated.

Studies have shown that our parents influence our sexual preferences when it comes to body types, personality, age differences, and more. There's a reason the term "Daddy issues" and "Mommy issues" get thrown around so much when it comes to dating, and apparently it's a thing for, well, nearly everybody. 

Tuesdays with T.Lo: Can You Ghost Someone After Having Sex?


The Daily T.Lo Presents: Tuesdays with T.Lo (Season 1, Episode 3) Ghosting is the practice of abruptly ending communication with someone without giving an explanation or a goodbye. It has the potential to leave people who are ghosted with feelings of abandonment and can actual cause physical pain. Despite the bad effects of ghosting, sex expert Teresa Lo argues that it is okay to ghost in certain circumstances, even after a one night stand.

Making Babies in the Winter Produces Skinnier Children


There are a lot of random wives tales about conceiving. Like if you do certain positions you'll get a boy or girl, or if lie on your back with your legs in the air for a few minutes you're more likely to make a baby instead of ooze out the sperm. But one study has a new baby-making finding, and that study comes from ETH Zurich, a university in Switzerland.

Researchers said that people who conceive in the winter cold are more likely to have skinnier children. In contrast, making babies in the summer heat are more likely to produce fat kids.

The Swiss scientists said that temperature is linked to brown adipose tissue (BAT), and that doing it in the cold is most likely to produce large amounts of BAT, which burn more calories. To make this determination, they studied 8,400 CT scans from adults and compared the scans from those who were conceived in the winter and those who were conceived in the summer.

So if you're looking to breed thin kids, head out to Canada in the winter and say hello to your future Virgo, Libra or Sagittarius! But if you're wanting adorable chubby kids, then go ahead and get it on in the heat wave. 

5 Reasons Men Become Sugar Daddies


As a creative, I've had to take on numerous low-paying jobs at once to make ends meet, and I've many a times borrowed money from family members to stay afloat. So the idea of having a magical rich boyfriend who'd solve all my financial problems is definitely something that appeals to me, but I have to wonder... why do wealthy men such as CEOS, lawyers, and doctors choose to become sugar daddies, benefactors to usually younger partners? What's in it for them? 

For over a year, I researched the sugar lifestyle for my recent book, The Sugar Baby Club, which is about two college freshmen who become sugar babies in order to fund a trip to Paris. As they get more engrossed in the lifestyle, they begin to teach other girls in their dorm how to snag rich men.

To learn more about the subject, I interviewed various sugar daddies and female sugar babies, and I learned that sugar dating is similar to regular dating but with two major exceptions. One, the relationship is usually no strings attached and this is discussed up front, and two, there is lots and lots of spoiling with gifts. 

So while it’s easy to figure out why sugar babies sign up to receive, why are there men out there so eager to give? The following are some of the most popular reasons told to me by straight sugar daddies:

1. They aren’t getting sex from their wives.
There are some single sugar daddies who like spoiling women and having the ease of a non-serious relationship. But the majority of men seeking a sugar baby tend to be married or in relationships. 

For married guys in sexless partnerships, having a sugar baby is less messy than having an affair, where mistresses might beg for divorces or threaten to tell their lover’s wives. For married men, finding a companion who wants a monthly allowance but understands the relationship’s limitations is a better choice than dealing with a costly divorce.

2. They don’t believe in monogamy.
Unlike the sexless men mentioned above, some married or coupled up men actually love their partners but still can’t help the urge to stray. Blame it on biology or a sense of entitlement, but either way, these dudes are looking and want to be discrete.

Getting a sugar baby is easier than having a girlfriend because the sugar baby has managed expectations in exchange for their funding. A lawyer with a side-piece girlfriend would end up spending a lot of money on her anyway, but he risks her blabbing to his wife or serious partner. 

3. They’re looking to spice up their sex lives.
Sugar dating websites aren’t just for singles. There are couples signed up as sugar daddy and sugar mama duos, and they’re looking to add a third to spice up their relationship. To those couples wanting to get their freak on, it’s more time efficient (and reputation-saving) to snag a sugar baby than to approach girls in their regular lives.

4. They don’t want the expectations of a relationship.
For committed men looking for some side fun, becoming a sugar daddy makes sense. But why would a single, wealthy man want to pay a young lady to hang out with him? Isn’t it just easier to meet a lady off of Bumble? Well, for one, throwing money around to get a date to not act clingy or demand a ring one day is worth the cost of a monthly allowance to some. 

According to Seeking Arrangement, a sugar baby is given on average $3,000 a month, and in bigger markets like New York, girls can command up to $4,000.

5. The money means nothing to them.
A first-year associate at a BigLaw firm can make $190,000 a year, and partners can make anywhere from $399,000 annually to up to almost $800,000 a year on average. CEOS of large corporations often have multi-million dollar yearly contracts, and doctors rake in six-figure incomes. 

There are numerous other jobs that pay these kinds of salaries, and for someone making that much dough, helping out a college student, recent graduate, or someone making a more modest income doesn’t seem like that big of a deal. In fact, the men I interviewed said that they felt good about helping women who needed it, and it actually made them feel even more high-status being a benefactor.

Exercise Can Help You Battle Depression


When I was a kid, I preferred to stay inside and read or watch TV. I remember disliking exercise so much that in a debate class I stupidly advocated to remove PE requirements at school, and now as an adult, I have done a 180 and finally see the beauty of living an active life.

Our health should be our number one priority, because without it, we don't have shit. You can be the richest person or the most beautiful person in the world, but if you aren't healthy, then you aren't happy.

Exercise not only makes you feel stronger and more energetic, but it can also battle depression. Buzzfeed News reported that a new study surveyed 1.2 million people and found that exercise can boost our moods.

"Overall, people reported having an average of 3.5 days of poor mental health in any given month, according to the report published in the Lancet Psychiatry," Buzzfeed said. "Just about any exercise — including walking or housework — helped reduce that number by an average of 1.5 days a month, or 43%. Team sports, cycling, and aerobic and gym exercises had the biggest effect, reducing poor mental health days by about 20%. Walking, on the other hand, was linked to a 10% reduction."

The people who benefited the most exercised 30-60 minutes/3-5 times a week. People who worked out more than an hour or less did not benefit as much as people who hit the golden amount of 45 minutes a session. 

"It's not like everyone has to go and run a marathon, and actually running wasn’t even the most effective," researcher Adam Chekroud said BuzzFeed News. "Things like yoga, things like walking, even household chores, seemed to have some benefit over doing nothing at all."

People who were clinically diagnosed with depression reported that exercise helped their mental health. Those who exercised reported about 7 days a month of not feeling good, compared to almost 11 days of sadness for those who weren't physically active. 

The study also found that group exercise was the most beneficial form of exercise to battle depression. Humans are social creatures, and even the shyest ones benefit from the energy of a friend; and humans also crave order. Thus, sports are the most useful activity at helping our mental health because they provide team camaraderie combined with structure. 

Does Anyone Remember the video: "Get out of my car"?


It has become a thing in American culture to record people with the intent to shame them online. In cases like Barbecue Becky and Pool Patrol Paula, the shaming is absolutely warranted and a tool to find awful people who would otherwise get away with bad behavior. But sometimes the shaming is not deserved, and the unnecessary violation of the subject's privacy becomes more of a reflection of the person behind the camera, not in front of it.

I stumbled across a viral video on Youtube called "Get out of my car!" It was released years ago, but I had never seen it until now.

In the video, an angry middle-aged white Uber driver repeatedly screams at his young female passenger to get out of his car. He had taken her to the hospital, and as he demands she gets out, she calmly stays there for at least three minutes and asks him dumb questions like "Where am I?" further provoking his rage.

As the driver yells, pretty much pleading for her to exit his property, she calmly tells him he has no right to yell at her. Then she asks him to take her to the emergency room or give her directions, as if he's 4-1-1. He tells her that he wants to call 9-1-1 to get her to leave, and she pushes him more, saying "Do it."

He never calls 9-1-1, and without seeing her face, you can hear the victory in her voice. She's loving this. 

The passenger finds this exchange humorous, and even though the man is yelling, she knows she has the power because she's upsetting him but he will never actually harm her.

Eventually, the Uber driver tells the passenger that she has been condescending throughout the trip, and he just wants her to get out. She claims that she needs to go to the ER for an emergency, but she clearly does not seem to be in any rush. As I watched each moment in this video, all I could think was WHY WON'T THIS BITCH GET OUT OF HIS CAR?!?!

The blow-up was insane to watch, but if the passenger was hoping to garner sympathy for what she instigated, then she was clearly wrong. Most people who watched the video could tell that this man was at the end of his rope and he had a squatter who seemed to enjoy his outbursts more than fear them.

When this video came out, the passenger received much-deserved backlash, but unfortunately the driver's account was suspended by Uber. I get that they didn't like how he talked to the woman, but it was apparent even from her one-sided attempt to smear him that there was a buildup before the camera started rolling.

I'm not a fan of yelling or violence in most occasions, but I also think that human beings sometimes have to escalate out of civility in order to protect themselves and their property. If this passenger had just gotten out of the car like he had asked, the driver never would've had to keep screaming.

This video was a gross reminder that there are people who pretend to be the victim, and to achieve this, they harm the reputations of those in their orbit by provoking them to their brinks. This practice is absolutely disgusting and sociopathic.

Because the wannabe victims have no remorse for their actions, it is better for people who encounter them to ignore them or run away. Unfortunately, this Uber driver didn't have that option, but luckily, he had a tape to exonerate him in the court of public opinion.

Tuesdays with T.Lo: Why "Casual Sex" Is Never Actually Casual


The Daily T.Lo Presents: Tuesdays with T.Lo (Season 1, Episode 2) Author and journalist T.Lo (Hustler Magazine, The Sugar Baby Club) discusses a theory from anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher that casual sex doesn’t exist because human beings release hormones during sex that create feelings of love and attachment.

Flight Attendants Admit They Sometimes Have Sex with Passengers


Some of us have fantasized about joining the mile-high club. But ticking off that move from our sexual bucket list is as elusive as winning the Powerball jackpot. Even if we get into the tiny space with a would-be lover, the smell of airport Cinnabon-induced dump and the bright blue toilet water is a true libido-killer.

And you’re probably never going to get into the bathroom with someone else anyway because the flight attendants are always lingering and watching. The reason being is that they know people want to have sex, and they know this because they boff in the sky too!

A 2016 study from British company Jetcost found that 21 percent of flight attendants have fucked a colleague while flying in the air, which explains why it takes so damn long to get your Ginger Ale and pretzels. Even crazier, 14 percent of flight attendants admitted to making whoopee with passengers. Either the people involved were just too damn sexy or someone on a flight was just really desperate for a free chicken salad sandwich.

Jetcost interviewed 718 flight attendants, and 89 percent of them admitted to breaking company rules. Flight attendants said this included more than just sexing. They told Jetcost that they’ve lied to passengers about the availability of duty free products, short-changed people, and accepted gifts and tips. So not only are some flight attendants horny, but they’re lazy and thieving. That’s good to know the next time your luggage mysteriously disappears.

Flight attendants said that they lied about not having duty-free products in stock solely because of laziness. Since the attendants don’t get a cut of sales, they just tell passengers there aren’t any products so they don’t have to schlep to the back of the plane to retrieve cigarettes, Jack Daniels, or whatever shit people buy while flying.

When it came to short-changing, the flight attendants admitted that they do it purposefully to pocket the extra money. They said they’d short passengers by either giving them change in a different currency or they relied on gullible passengers just not checking the cash they got back. After all, who’d suspect a smiling flight attendant who looks so dapper in that airline vest?

Jetcost said that on average tricky flight attendants kept about $419 a year. That could explain why a lot of American companies no longer allow cash exchanges when buying things. It’s all because of shifty workers who’d risk losing their jobs for the cost of a round-trip ticket from Kansas City to Dallas.

Lastly, flight attendants confessed that they accepted gifts and tips, which are strict company no-nos. While this broken rule doesn’t seem as bad as the others, it really makes you wonder—Who brings flight attendants gifts? And why? Is it because they want special treatment? Because if you’re flying first class, they’re going to kiss your ass for sure, and if you’re flying coach, the experience is so shitty that getting treated a little better is still not amounting to much. The only logical explanation in our dirty minds is that these generous passengers make up the lucky 14 percent that get dirty with the in-flight crew. Bow-chiga-wow-wow! Bring on those peanuts!

If You've Ever Checked Your Phone During Sex, You're Not Alone


The rudest thing I've ever done in bed is pretend to be asleep so my boyfriend would leave me alone. But apparently, there are tons of rude people out there who actually check their phones during sex. That's what a study from SureCall said.

SureCall said that 10% of people have checked their phone during sex, and that millennials are more likely to do it than people aged 35-50.

When I learned about this, my reaction was at first, WTF? Like, is it an obvious, stare at your phone, swipe-through-pictures-on-Instagram-kinda thing? Or is more subtle, where your lover is doing something nasty, and you reach over and glance to see if you got any Facebook notifications?

While these questions will probably not be clarified (and that's probably for the best), I guess I'm not that surprised by the information because people are so addicted to their devices.

I was recently in an aerobics class that was only 50 minutes. A girl who stood in the front was so addicted to her phone that she checked it at least 5 times. She was off on the moves and had to blatantly look at the phone while everyone else was squatting or jazzercising away their turkey arms, but this girl had no shame.

Seeing her phone addiction was off-putting, and it was weird to think that she even bothered showing up to exercise when she clearly wasn't exerting much effort in that area.

Well, at least her thumbs got a workout.

In Surecall's study, they also learned that people took their cell phones into the bathroom and checked it as they pooped or peed, and 75% of respondents said they keep their phones next to them while they slept.

Men Lose Interest in Sex Before Women In Long-Term Relationships


Men and women face certain expectations because of their gender. While some stereotypes may work in their favor, others can result in high pressures that result in anxiety and depression. For men, one of the latter expectations is to maintain a high sex drive even as they age, and if their appetite dips, they may experience insecurity. 

A study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that men lose interest in sex in long-term relationships before their female partners do, and the reason for this is that they feel pressure to initiative sex, to maintain the amount of sex performed, and to always be down to get down. 

Men also feel frustration as relationships progress because they feel as if their sexual freedom has been stifled by monogamy. 

The research was taken by the University of Kentucky, and they stated that unlike women, men lose interest in sex when they are feeling unhappy. To create their analysis, they examined 64 older studies about sex that were published recently and as far back as the 1950s.

"We expect male desire to always be high and to be simple, like an on and off switch, while we expect women’s desire to be a complicated switchboard, but they are both complex," Kristen Mark, associate professor of health promotion and director of the Sexual Health Promotion Lab at the University of Kentucky and lead author of the study, said to The Telegraph.

The researchers found that insecurity within men leads to their loss of sex drive, so for couples experiencing this problem, a solution could be made if the two parties are open to communication. 

What Is Queening and Have You Tried It?

If you're getting bored with regular oral sex or 69, you may be interested in Queening. For those who aren't in a female-led relationship, Queening is a sex act where women essentially sit on a man's face so that he can provide oral pleasure. The position is called Queening because it resembles royalty taking their throne.

In the BDSM world, Queening is quite popular with Dominant women and the submissive men who love them. Women straddle the faces of their lovers who serve them in a worship-like manner, and men love the idea of being slightly suffocated by their Queen's scent and body. The act is both sensual and dominating for the woman and a sign of service for the man.

To further the experience, Queens can wear royal costumes and talk to their lovers like they are servants. In this type of role play, Dommes can refer to themselves as "Her Majesty," "Her Royal Highness," "Queen," "Princess," or just regular oldie but goodie "Mistress." Subs in this scene can be called "servant," "slave," or other variations of theme. 

Urban Dictionary said that Queening is "an ancient art in which a woman presses and rubs her genitalia and/or anus against the tongue, lips, and nose of her subordinate. She classically positions herself in a sitting on or straddling over another's face. The first images of this can be seen in ancient Egyptian drawings, but it is known to have been a historic part of ancient Japanese, Chinese, Indian, Medieval European, Victorian and other cultures."

“It was usually the job of male slaves and servants to submit to their mistresses desires, in Japan there were even brothels where women and girls would pay for male slaves specially trained in the art of queening."

Tuesdays with T.Lo: Why Do Men Love Sending Dick Pics?


The Daily T.Lo Presents: Tuesdays with T.Lo (Season 1, Episode 1)

Author and journalist Teresa Lo (Hustler Magazine, The Sugar Baby Club) discusses why men loving sending women dick pics.... and not just dick pics but UNSOLICITED dick pics.

Citing an article from Harvard scholar Dr. Justin Lehmiller, T.Lo explores three scientific reasons why men send dick pics, and how women should react to receive these unwanted eggplant presents.

Do A Lot Of Guys Cry After Sex?

Consensual sex fills our bodies with hormones that make us feel something akin to euphoria, but sometimes, that high can lead to a devastating crash. In the BDSM world, they practice Aftercare, which refers to acts that make sure their lovers are okay after sex. The reason for this is because sex can actually make people depressed and sad.

We've probably all heard stories of women who have cried after bad sex, but men are just as likely to feel bad as their female counterparts. Researchers from the Queensland University of Technology said that it is normal for men to cry after sex and these tears can stem from anxiety, depression, irritability or more. 

In our patriarchal society, men are often told to "man up" and suppress their feelings, so their mental health after sex was previously not prioritized in the scientific community, according to one of the researchers.

"My guess is that we have such a cultural view of what sex is for men that the very idea of men having experiences which are aversive are just not even considered," professor Robert Schweitzer, a psychology researcher from QUT, told Buzzfeed News.

The researchers studied Postcoital Dysphoria (PCD), a condition that men and women feel after consensual sex. Those who suffer from PCD feel negatively after intercourse, and these feelings can involve longing, remorse, depression, and shame. The reasons can range from anything from regretting having sex to being mistreated by their partner. 

QUT researchers surveyed 1,200 men and found that 41% of them have experienced PCD at least once in their lifetime. Only 3-4% said they experience PCD on a regular basis. 

This study is important because it is a reminder that men are just as emotional about sex as women, and they need TLC in the form of cuddling, kind words, and other affection just as much as their partners.