BLOG UPDATE: Posts will be on hold for the rest of the year

Hi everyone!

Thanks for spending time here at The Daily T.Lo. I had a lot of fun sharing posts with you daily, and it was fun exploring the topic of love, sex, and relationships. However, I regret to say that I am putting this endeavor on hold for the time being.

As an independent creator, I don't have a lot of time or resources to create content, so I have to be careful where I put my energy. For the next few months, I'd like to try my hand at making more videos and a podcast, so I'll still be online just not on this blog!

I'm going to put my content mostly on social media, so if you're not following me already, here is where you can reach me:

Thanks again for all your support and see you around!


Tuesdays with T.Lo Update

Hi everyone!

I wanted to thank you all for watching season one of Tuesdays with T.Lo! It was a fun project to collaborate with Marva Whitaker, Michael J. Martinez, Rebecca Lo, and Danny Zuker; and I'm excited to keep making videos. 

For the next season, I'm going to try out a new format, possibly a live one, so stay tuned! I'll provide more updates here on this blog as well as on Facebook

Thanks again!


Italian Man Who Bed Thousands of Women Dies During Sex

Wilt Chamberlain claimed to have bed 20,000 women. Charlie Sheen is rumored to have boned 5,000 women, Warren Beatty 13,000. While it seems crazy to think someone even knows thousands of people, there are some men who will go down in history as being playboys, and in late September, Italy lost a legend, according to the New York Post.

Maurizio Zanfanti, 63, died while having sex with a woman 40 years younger than him. It was rumored that he had bedded 6,000 women after he became a nightclub promoter in Rimini, Italy. He was dubbed the Romeo of Rimini, and he used his charms to lure people to come out and party.

The Italian womanizer suffered a heart attack in the backseat of a car while getting busy with a 23-year-old Romanian tourist. Locals who seemed to admire this Lothario said that he was "Italy's most successful lover" and he died the way he would've wanted to.

Over 1 in 50 People Have HPV in Their Throats

Most people know by now that the human papillomavirus (HPV) can cause cervical cancer. But HPV can linger in people's throats, causing throat cancer in women and men.

In England, more than 1 in 50 people are carrying HPV in their throats, according to a study published in the British Medical Journal Open. The study stated that oral sex and smoking were the leading transmitters of the virus.

“Many people associate the HPV virus with cervical cancer but there is less recognition of the fact that HPV causes oropharyngeal cancer, and unfortunately the prevalence of this cancer has increased dramatically in the past few years," Dr. Craig Murdoch said in The Independent. 

Researchers from the University of Sheffeld tested 700 British men and women for HPV and asked them lifestyle questions that ranged from their sexual history to smoking habits. The study was led by Dr. Vanessa Hearnden, who she said that she supports programs that vaccinate boys for HPV. 

Currently, countries such as the US encourage girls to get HPV vaccinations, but they do not emphasize prevention for males. 

People Who Plan Ahead Have Awesome Sex

Buying organizers at The Container Store may be a thrill for me, as well as staying on schedule and budgeting. But being mindful is not necessarily what I'd consider a sexy trait, but a German research group argues that people who plan ahead are way better lovers than those who are easy going.

This year, psychologists from the Ruhr University Bochum published a study in the Journal of Sex Research, and it said that conscientious people were more likely to be sexually satisfied than their less-disciplined counterparts. 

The psychologists surveyed almost 1,000 couples, most of whom were straight, and they asked them about their personality traits and the quality of their sex lives. 

Women who were conscientious said they were the most sexually satisfied, and men who were dutiful were reported as excellent lovers who aimed to please. 

The study suggested that planning romance and intimacy helped couples stay strong and fulfilled, and mindful couples tended to have longer relationships than people who were carefree.

“High conscientiousness can be especially beneficial when it comes to putting effort into a satisfying sexual life,” author Julia Velten tells Quartz, “or to postpone one’s own needs and interests to focus on resolving a sexual problem within the context of committed, long-term relationships.”

Tuesdays with T.Lo: How To Tell If You're Dating a Racist

The Daily T.Lo Presents: Tuesdays with T.Lo (Season 1, Episode 8) Unless you’re Richard Spencer or Ann Coulter, you probably don’t want to date a racist. But how can you spot a racist online before you go on that first date? T.Lo breaks down what to look for in a dating profile, shares her thoughts on interracial dating, and describes the differences between having a type and a race fetish.

Can Yoga Improve Your Sex Life?

Back when I was living in Kansas, I heard about the healing powers of yoga, and although I didn't have access to any classes, I bought tapes from Sams Club and tried to do moves that were printed in magazines.

Now that I live in Los Angeles, I'm a happy yogi, taking classes at least 2-3 times a week, and doing yoga makes me feel calm and keeps me limber. Years prior, I had been rear-ended on the highway twice, which severely fucked up my back, and yoga was one of the tools in my pocket that I used to ease my pain and strengthen my spine.

But what else can yoga do? Ana Sandolu argued on Medical News Today that it can actually help your sex life. She said that yoga improves sexual function in women and men, helps the body with sexual function, and releases bad energy.

To back up her claims, Sandolu used prior medical studies, but she noted that there was a "large discrepancy between the amount of so-called empirical, or experimental, evidence, and that of non-empirical, or anecdotal, evidence."

"While we need more scientific evidence to support yoga's benefits for our sex lives, the seeds are definitely there. Until future research can ascertain whether "yogasms" are a real, achievable thing, we think that there's enough reason to incorporate yoga in our daily routines," Sandolu wrote. "Trying it out for ourselves could prove tremendously enriching — and our pelvic muscles will definitely thank us for it."

If you search the internet, you'll probably find numerous yoga blogs touting anecdotal stories of how yoga helps with sex. And while the medical research may be slim, yoga is still worth trying for anyone who wants to spice up their moves in the bedroom. I mean, if anything, you'll be flexible and stronger, and that's definitely sexy. 

Your Job Influences Who You'll Marry

Every time I meet a new person, one of the standard get-to-know-you-questions is, "What do you do?" Not only does this question define what you do with the majority of your time, but it also signifies your social status, your education level, your income, and apparently...your spouse.

Bloomberg Business conducted research that was published in 2016 about who people married, and using data from the US Census Bureau, they discovered what many of us already suspected--people in certain industries marry within that industry. This could be because of who they are in proximity to and who they have the most in common with.

For instance, chefs, male and female, tend to marry other restaurant professionals or maids. Salespeople tend to marry other salespeople. Doctors marry fellow doctors or nurses. Judges marry lawyers. And so on and so on.

What's interesting too is that some jobs such as farmers marry other farmers but also teachers. Male flight attendants, male CEOs, male cops, and male financial analysts also tend to go for teachers. While the data did not state why these men fell for teachers, teachers tend to have nurturing and intellectual personalities that are extremely attractive to people of all ages. Plus, everyone has had a teacher at some point in their life, which means that there is a commonality for any other profession to be able to connect with an educator.

So if you happen to be single and you're surfing for potential partners online, you may have better luck if you narrow down your search to someone in your field of work. While some people claim to hate dating someone with the same job, it may actually lead to marriage in the long run.

Many Young People Aren't Aware They Can Withdraw Consent Once Naked

Let's say you're fooling around with your date, and you get naked. But then your date tells you something that is offputting, and you decide to not have sex. The date gets mad and insists you owe it to them. What would you do?

Let's say you're drunk and start fooling around with someone, but halfway through, you don't want to have sex anymore. What would you do?

Let's say a date bought you an expensive dinner and then invited you to his house, but you don't want to have sex. What would you do?

Scenarios like the above mention happen quite a bit, and it is awkward if one person wants to have sex but the other either doesn't or changes their mind. While it should be the norm that the sex stops once consent is withdrawn, many people don't think they have the right to withdraw consent in these situations.

A new study from the Family Planning Association said 39% of teenagers didn't think it was ok to withdraw consent while naked and 45% got most of their sex ed from television and movies. And while some media is getting more woke, many romantic encounters on video incorrectly show that it is standard for men to not take no for an answer and that women are hypersexual and enjoy being conquested. While those two things can sometimes be true, they are not always the case. 

And that's where we have a problem.

Additionally, some of the 2000 14-17 year-olds polled by FPA said they felt obligated to have sex if a person bought them dinner or drinks, had sex with the person before, were in a bedroom, or had already kissed the person, Cosmopolitan reported. 

This feeling of not having any control over one's sexuality, especially with women, can stem from a human need to be liked and agreeable; but that need should not override one's own safety or comfort. In the end, a person who wants to withdraw consent should and they should be able to do it at any time during a sexual encounter. If that withdrawal upsets or angers their partner, then they aren't with someone who respects their feelings as much as their own, and the match is not a good one and both parties should go separate ways. 

It has been proven that sex education given to young people in recent years has not adequately taught consent or the ramifications of sex on one's emotional state, and the media is not a good teacher either. If you know any young people who may have questions about relationships, it is highly suggested that you let them know what their options are when it comes to these types of encounters.

Overall, sex should be fun, not something granted through coercion or false obligation.  

Rate of Chlamydia, Gonorrhea and Syphilis on the Rise

In the past, horny college kids at spring break could get the clap and then return home, take some medicine, and go on their merry ways. But now, some STDs have developed the ability to fight antibiotics, and more and more people are getting infected.

With the alarming rise of STDs, healthcare professionals have called for the federal government to take action.

"It is time that President Trump and [Health and Human Services] Secretary [Alex] Azar declare STDs in America a public health crisis," David Harvey, executive director of the National Coalition of STD Directors, said, according to CNN. "What goes along with that is emergency access to public health funding to make a dent in these STD rates and to bring these rates down and to ensure that all Americans get access to the health care that they need."

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the rates of syphilis, gonorrhea, and chlamydia are on the rise for the fourth consecutive year. Research has shown that the amount of sexual activity in Americans has gone down, but the number of people diagnosed with STDs ballooned to 2.3 million this year. 

The CDC's numbers are terrifying, considering that in 2016, the number of Americans diagnosed with STDs was 200,000. So what is causing this increase?

"We know today that some of what is driving congenital syphilis are women who are trading sex for drugs and that that explains some of the infections we are seeing in babies of syphilis," Harvey said. "There are infectious disease consequences of the opioid epidemic in America, including sexually transmitted infections."

Members of the healthcare community noted that there needs to be changes in the way we screen, prevent and treat sexually transmitted diseases, and they noted that some strains of STDs are now resisting the medicine that used to destroy the diseases in the past, meaning more medical development should be funded. 

"It's important to realize that the gonococcus, the bacteria that causes gonorrhea, has reliably developed resistance to every antibiotic that has ever been used to treat the infection. But in the past 15 to 20 years, the number of new antibiotics available and the development of new antibiotics has slowed greatly. So we have this continued inexorable process of the gonococcus developing antimicrobial resistance, coupled with fewer new antibiotics to pick up and take care of the problem if it develops," Dr. Edward Hook said. "That's a very troublesome combination."

CNN reported that there are millions of people with just the three STDs mentioned. In 2013, "there were 1,752,285 total cases of chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis diagnosed in the United States. That number grew to 1,811,850 in 2014; 1,945,746 in 2015; 2,094,682 in 2016; and 2,294,821 in 2017, according to the preliminary CDC data."