If You Want to Get Pregnant, Have Sex Twice in a Night

In my twenties, the idea of getting pregnant terrified me and my friends, who were busy pursuing their careers or trying to finish overpriced schooling. But as the years passed and more of my friends are married or have already had children, it's fascinating to think how people are trying to have children, and that not getting pregnant is a source of frustration or anguish. 

But what can couples who want children do to help their chances of getting pregnant? Well, a new study from China suggests that boning twice in a night is one way to increase the odds. 

Dr. Da Li at Shengjing University studied semen and told the Huffington Post that conventional wisdom to abstain from sex until ovulation was a falsehood. 

“For years, men have usually been advised to limit sexual activity to increase the chances of pregnancy,” said Dr. Li. “However, it’s time to change our minds. Our data indicates couples with relatively normal semen parameters should have frequent sex around the ovulation period. This could make all the difference to their efforts to start a family.”

Li said that men who ejaculate twice in a night have better odds of fertilizing an egg than a man who has sex once after waiting for days or weeks. Li said that the second ejaculation has faster sperm and more proteins, and the research team studied almost 500 couples.

“A typical live birth rate in a cohort of this size is about 30 percent,” said Li. “In the experimental cohort, live births were higher by one-third.”

Study Says Stoners Have More Sex Than Non-Tokers

When we think of stoners, we think of happy, unmotivated people who watch a lot of TV and eat munchies, but apparently, the Shaggy stereotype is just that. In fact, people who smoke weed are actually super, sexy lovers, a new study reports. 

Researchers at Stanford analyzed data from over 28,000 women and almost 23,000 men to find out what link marijuana had to one's sexuality. The study, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine,  found that “marijuana use is independently associated with increased sexual frequency and does not appear to impair sexual function.” Additionally, people who smoke pot reported having more sex than people who didn't toke. 

"Frequent marijuana use doesn't seem to impair sexual motivation or performance. If anything, it's associated with increased coital frequency," Michael Eisenberg, the senior author of the study, stated.

Eisenberg said that the study did not show that marijuana made people hornier but that the results hint at that. In the United States, marijuana is federally illegal, but a few states have legalized recreational pot and many have legalized medicinal weed. 

Social Media Harming Our Mental Health

Back in the day, if bullies wanted to get you, they'd call you names to your face or egg your house, but nowadays, bullies can easily torment their victims through the internet. A new study conducted in the UK by the Centre for Mental Health said that social media has caused a significant amount of harm in 45% of adults.

"Evidence about the roles social media play in relation to our mental health is still emerging," the Centre for Mental said, according to Metro. "And while more has been said and written about the potential risks and dangers, evidence has come to light on both positive and negative impacts that may be associated with social media use."

Social media can cause addiction and be a tool for cyber bullies, and it can also flare up jealousy and depression when people see their friends supposedly living better lives than them.

The report, conducted in the UK, asked that the government intervene on this growing problem, and it stated that young people are particularly vulnerable to negative side effects of platforms like Facebook and Twitter.

Even the Pope Says Sex Is Cool

Religious people or people who claim to be religious are some of the biggest anti-sex advocates out there. They're always using the Bible to justify some sort of law to control people's behavior, but now one of the highest religious authorities is countering that point of view.

“Sex is a gift the Lord gives us. It has two purposes: for loving each other and generating life," Pope Francis said, according to Express. "It is passion, it is passionate love. True love is passionate. Sexuality, sex, is a gift of God. Not taboo."

Pope Francis is overall known as the Cool Pope because he actually seems to care about Jesus' teachings and helping the poor. While the ongoing priest abuse scandals have tarnished his reputation, he is still trying harder than his predecessors to right those wrongs. 

The pope made his sex-is-cool comments to a group of youngsters in France this year. While he may have given the act a stamp of approval, it should also be noted that he was still in the dark ages when it came to acknowledging homosexuality and condemning pornography. 

Tuesdays with T.Lo: How To Stop Dating Losers

The Daily T.Lo Presents: Tuesdays with T.Lo (Season 1, Episode 6) We’ve all been on bad dates, but what happens if you ONLY go out with terrible people? How do you stop this plague of loser dates? Author and journalist Teresa Lo says to stop dating losers you have to do a better job of screening, and she offers tips on how to spot these wannabe-Mark Wahlbergs and stop wasting your time.

What To Do If College Students Quit Taking Their Medication

When I was in high school, I was aware of mental health issues, but I did not know of many people who actually sought treatment or were prescribed medication. The only times I had known of someone seeking care was if they had committed an extreme act of self-harm.

But that was years ago. Students now are more likely to have been diagnosed with mental health conditions before entering college. These students are given medication as an important component of their care, but according to the Arizona Daily Sun, some students stop taking their pills once they're away from the watchful eyes of their parents.

Psychiatrist Bruce Cohen told the Arizona Daily Sun that some students don't want to be seen as a problem so they don't like to ask for help. When these kids go off to college and are on their own, being busy sometimes results in them forgetting to take their meds or wanting to see what life is like without them. When students stop taking meds, they don't notice a problem right away, which makes them think they never needed them.

“A few days you don’t take it and you don’t feel terrible,” Cohen said. “So you think maybe you don’t need it.”

A study about medication found that prescriptions for adolescents rose from 14% in the 1990s to 20% in the mid-2000s. 

“We are now able to help students enough that they actually get into college, whereas 20 years ago, they wouldn’t have,” Cohen said.

Psychologist Matthew Wintersteen told the Arizona Daily Sun that students in college want to be viewed as independent and may not want to acknowledge having a mental illness. The idea of feeling like they have to take meds is challenging for them because of these reasons.

But when students are pushed into new environments and aren't taking medicine, this can result in extended periods of anxiety or depression, and students may also try to self-medicate with alcohol or drugs. To fight this problem, doctors suggest parents talk to their kids before they go to college about medication and counseling.

Majority of Male Transgender Youth Attempt Suicide, Research Shows

Transgender adolescents are more likely to try to commit suicide than youth who identify with the gender identity that matches their chromosomes.

In September, a study was published in Pediatrics that studied the suicide rate in young people. Researchers analyzed data collected from over 120,000 adolescents, aged 11 to 19. Of those individuals less than 1% identified as transgender.

Fifty-one percent of transgender male youth reported that they had tried to kill themselves at least once, 42% of nonbinary young people reported suicide attempts, and 30% of transgender female adolescents said they had attempted suicide. Of all the study participants about 14% said they had attempted suicide.

According to the Center for Disease Control, the number one cause of death amongst adolescents is accidents and suicide is the second leading cause.

“For every transgender group, it’s orders of magnitude too high,” transgender activist Greta Gustava Martela said to the Washington Post. “And there’s nothing shocking about it. If you look at the things that cause people to be suicidal, whether it’s social rejection or homelessness, they all affect trans people more.”

One Major Reason To Make Your Bed Every Morning

I am a messy person, naturally. I don't enjoy picking up after myself. If smells or bugs didn't exist, I'd let my dirty dishes just pile up in the sink, and I constantly fantasize about hiring a monthly or even weekly maid.


I am tidy. Every morning I make my bed. I tidy up after myself so that things aren't chaotically strewn about. I dust.

Chaos in one's environment has a negative effect on my mood, so even though I hate to clean, I force myself to be neat.

And apparently, that mindfulness not only adds to my positive mental health but also to my sex life. A study from OnePoll commissioned by Sleepopolis said that people who made their beds daily on average reported more sex than their less mindful counterparts.

A spokesperson from Sleepopolis said that the reason for this is that the mindful bed maker may be getting more sleep because of his or her lifestyle.

“Results highlighted the sleep loss epidemic that Americans are facing – sleep is incredibly important to our mental and physical health, yet the average American is only getting six and a half hours per night,” Sleepopolis’ director of content Logan Block said, according to the Toronto Sun. “There are many easy solutions to getting more sleep, including going to bed at an earlier time and being in a comfortable environment conducive to sleep.”

The research was compiled by polling 2,000 Americans. 

Submissive Women Aroused By Other People's Pain

People who enjoy BDSM are born liking BDSM over vanilla sex, and new research shows that submissive women have certain personality traits relating to empathy and pain.

Submissive women in BDSM can be subjected to consensual emotional of physical abuse or control, and research shows that they are aroused by pain, according to the Deccan Chronicle. This enjoyment of pain effects the way they see pain in others too. When others experience it, submissive women are not moved to feel sympathy or empathy like "normal people" typically do.

The study was published in the journal, Neuropsychologia, and it suggested that BDSM desensitizes people to pain and suffering.

The study was conducted in China, and the researchers found female submissives were aroused by pain more than dominant women or men. Previous research also said that submissive women had less fear of rejection than vanilla women and were less neurotic people. 

Tuesdays with T.Lo: What Do You Do If You're Being Sexually Harassed?

The Daily T.Lo Presents: Tuesdays with T.Lo (Season 1, Episode 5) When the #MeToo movement exploded in 2017, the problem of sexual harassment at work and school was exposed, and many high-profile men resigned or were fired as a response. But ousting a few bad apples does not actually solve the problem, which had already been addressed through legislation decades ago. Many men and women continue to deal with sexual harassment, and some of them decide to file lawsuits or go public with their stories. Last year, Teresa Lo interviewed several employment lawyers about what to do if you are being sexually harassed, and they offered several tips to protect yourself and to fight back.