Your Job Influences Who You'll Marry

Every time I meet a new person, one of the standard get-to-know-you-questions is, "What do you do?" Not only does this question define what you do with the majority of your time, but it also signifies your social status, your education level, your income, and apparently...your spouse.

Bloomberg Business conducted research that was published in 2016 about who people married, and using data from the US Census Bureau, they discovered what many of us already suspected--people in certain industries marry within that industry. This could be because of who they are in proximity to and who they have the most in common with.

For instance, chefs, male and female, tend to marry other restaurant professionals or maids. Salespeople tend to marry other salespeople. Doctors marry fellow doctors or nurses. Judges marry lawyers. And so on and so on.

What's interesting too is that some jobs such as farmers marry other farmers but also teachers. Male flight attendants, male CEOs, male cops, and male financial analysts also tend to go for teachers. While the data did not state why these men fell for teachers, teachers tend to have nurturing and intellectual personalities that are extremely attractive to people of all ages. Plus, everyone has had a teacher at some point in their life, which means that there is a commonality for any other profession to be able to connect with an educator.

So if you happen to be single and you're surfing for potential partners online, you may have better luck if you narrow down your search to someone in your field of work. While some people claim to hate dating someone with the same job, it may actually lead to marriage in the long run.

Many Young People Aren't Aware They Can Withdraw Consent Once Naked

Let's say you're fooling around with your date, and you get naked. But then your date tells you something that is offputting, and you decide to not have sex. The date gets mad and insists you owe it to them. What would you do?

Let's say you're drunk and start fooling around with someone, but halfway through, you don't want to have sex anymore. What would you do?

Let's say a date bought you an expensive dinner and then invited you to his house, but you don't want to have sex. What would you do?

Scenarios like the above mention happen quite a bit, and it is awkward if one person wants to have sex but the other either doesn't or changes their mind. While it should be the norm that the sex stops once consent is withdrawn, many people don't think they have the right to withdraw consent in these situations.

A new study from the Family Planning Association said 39% of teenagers didn't think it was ok to withdraw consent while naked and 45% got most of their sex ed from television and movies. And while some media is getting more woke, many romantic encounters on video incorrectly show that it is standard for men to not take no for an answer and that women are hypersexual and enjoy being conquested. While those two things can sometimes be true, they are not always the case. 

And that's where we have a problem.

Additionally, some of the 2000 14-17 year-olds polled by FPA said they felt obligated to have sex if a person bought them dinner or drinks, had sex with the person before, were in a bedroom, or had already kissed the person, Cosmopolitan reported. 

This feeling of not having any control over one's sexuality, especially with women, can stem from a human need to be liked and agreeable; but that need should not override one's own safety or comfort. In the end, a person who wants to withdraw consent should and they should be able to do it at any time during a sexual encounter. If that withdrawal upsets or angers their partner, then they aren't with someone who respects their feelings as much as their own, and the match is not a good one and both parties should go separate ways. 

It has been proven that sex education given to young people in recent years has not adequately taught consent or the ramifications of sex on one's emotional state, and the media is not a good teacher either. If you know any young people who may have questions about relationships, it is highly suggested that you let them know what their options are when it comes to these types of encounters.

Overall, sex should be fun, not something granted through coercion or false obligation.  

Rate of Chlamydia, Gonorrhea and Syphilis on the Rise

In the past, horny college kids at spring break could get the clap and then return home, take some medicine, and go on their merry ways. But now, some STDs have developed the ability to fight antibiotics, and more and more people are getting infected.

With the alarming rise of STDs, healthcare professionals have called for the federal government to take action.

"It is time that President Trump and [Health and Human Services] Secretary [Alex] Azar declare STDs in America a public health crisis," David Harvey, executive director of the National Coalition of STD Directors, said, according to CNN. "What goes along with that is emergency access to public health funding to make a dent in these STD rates and to bring these rates down and to ensure that all Americans get access to the health care that they need."

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the rates of syphilis, gonorrhea, and chlamydia are on the rise for the fourth consecutive year. Research has shown that the amount of sexual activity in Americans has gone down, but the number of people diagnosed with STDs ballooned to 2.3 million this year. 

The CDC's numbers are terrifying, considering that in 2016, the number of Americans diagnosed with STDs was 200,000. So what is causing this increase?

"We know today that some of what is driving congenital syphilis are women who are trading sex for drugs and that that explains some of the infections we are seeing in babies of syphilis," Harvey said. "There are infectious disease consequences of the opioid epidemic in America, including sexually transmitted infections."

Members of the healthcare community noted that there needs to be changes in the way we screen, prevent and treat sexually transmitted diseases, and they noted that some strains of STDs are now resisting the medicine that used to destroy the diseases in the past, meaning more medical development should be funded. 

"It's important to realize that the gonococcus, the bacteria that causes gonorrhea, has reliably developed resistance to every antibiotic that has ever been used to treat the infection. But in the past 15 to 20 years, the number of new antibiotics available and the development of new antibiotics has slowed greatly. So we have this continued inexorable process of the gonococcus developing antimicrobial resistance, coupled with fewer new antibiotics to pick up and take care of the problem if it develops," Dr. Edward Hook said. "That's a very troublesome combination."

CNN reported that there are millions of people with just the three STDs mentioned. In 2013, "there were 1,752,285 total cases of chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis diagnosed in the United States. That number grew to 1,811,850 in 2014; 1,945,746 in 2015; 2,094,682 in 2016; and 2,294,821 in 2017, according to the preliminary CDC data."

Tuesdays with T.Lo: How Body Positivity Can Lead to Good Sex

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Body positivity has been on the rise in recent years, but people often still feel insecure getting naked with a new partner. But I argue that loving your body can help you have a better sex life, so get to feeling confident!

If You Want to Get Pregnant, Have Sex Twice in a Night

In my twenties, the idea of getting pregnant terrified me and my friends, who were busy pursuing their careers or trying to finish overpriced schooling. But as the years passed and more of my friends are married or have already had children, it's fascinating to think how people are trying to have children, and that not getting pregnant is a source of frustration or anguish. 

But what can couples who want children do to help their chances of getting pregnant? Well, a new study from China suggests that boning twice in a night is one way to increase the odds. 

Dr. Da Li at Shengjing University studied semen and told the Huffington Post that conventional wisdom to abstain from sex until ovulation was a falsehood. 

“For years, men have usually been advised to limit sexual activity to increase the chances of pregnancy,” said Dr. Li. “However, it’s time to change our minds. Our data indicates couples with relatively normal semen parameters should have frequent sex around the ovulation period. This could make all the difference to their efforts to start a family.”

Li said that men who ejaculate twice in a night have better odds of fertilizing an egg than a man who has sex once after waiting for days or weeks. Li said that the second ejaculation has faster sperm and more proteins, and the research team studied almost 500 couples.

“A typical live birth rate in a cohort of this size is about 30 percent,” said Li. “In the experimental cohort, live births were higher by one-third.”

Study Says Stoners Have More Sex Than Non-Tokers

When we think of stoners, we think of happy, unmotivated people who watch a lot of TV and eat munchies, but apparently, the Shaggy stereotype is just that. In fact, people who smoke weed are actually super, sexy lovers, a new study reports. 

Researchers at Stanford analyzed data from over 28,000 women and almost 23,000 men to find out what link marijuana had to one's sexuality. The study, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine,  found that “marijuana use is independently associated with increased sexual frequency and does not appear to impair sexual function.” Additionally, people who smoke pot reported having more sex than people who didn't toke. 

"Frequent marijuana use doesn't seem to impair sexual motivation or performance. If anything, it's associated with increased coital frequency," Michael Eisenberg, the senior author of the study, stated.

Eisenberg said that the study did not show that marijuana made people hornier but that the results hint at that. In the United States, marijuana is federally illegal, but a few states have legalized recreational pot and many have legalized medicinal weed. 

Social Media Harming Our Mental Health

Back in the day, if bullies wanted to get you, they'd call you names to your face or egg your house, but nowadays, bullies can easily torment their victims through the internet. A new study conducted in the UK by the Centre for Mental Health said that social media has caused a significant amount of harm in 45% of adults.

"Evidence about the roles social media play in relation to our mental health is still emerging," the Centre for Mental said, according to Metro. "And while more has been said and written about the potential risks and dangers, evidence has come to light on both positive and negative impacts that may be associated with social media use."

Social media can cause addiction and be a tool for cyber bullies, and it can also flare up jealousy and depression when people see their friends supposedly living better lives than them.

The report, conducted in the UK, asked that the government intervene on this growing problem, and it stated that young people are particularly vulnerable to negative side effects of platforms like Facebook and Twitter.

Even the Pope Says Sex Is Cool

Religious people or people who claim to be religious are some of the biggest anti-sex advocates out there. They're always using the Bible to justify some sort of law to control people's behavior, but now one of the highest religious authorities is countering that point of view.

“Sex is a gift the Lord gives us. It has two purposes: for loving each other and generating life," Pope Francis said, according to Express. "It is passion, it is passionate love. True love is passionate. Sexuality, sex, is a gift of God. Not taboo."

Pope Francis is overall known as the Cool Pope because he actually seems to care about Jesus' teachings and helping the poor. While the ongoing priest abuse scandals have tarnished his reputation, he is still trying harder than his predecessors to right those wrongs. 

The pope made his sex-is-cool comments to a group of youngsters in France this year. While he may have given the act a stamp of approval, it should also be noted that he was still in the dark ages when it came to acknowledging homosexuality and condemning pornography. 

Tuesdays with T.Lo: How To Stop Dating Losers

The Daily T.Lo Presents: Tuesdays with T.Lo (Season 1, Episode 6) We’ve all been on bad dates, but what happens if you ONLY go out with terrible people? How do you stop this plague of loser dates? Author and journalist Teresa Lo says to stop dating losers you have to do a better job of screening, and she offers tips on how to spot these wannabe-Mark Wahlbergs and stop wasting your time.

What To Do If College Students Quit Taking Their Medication

When I was in high school, I was aware of mental health issues, but I did not know of many people who actually sought treatment or were prescribed medication. The only times I had known of someone seeking care was if they had committed an extreme act of self-harm.

But that was years ago. Students now are more likely to have been diagnosed with mental health conditions before entering college. These students are given medication as an important component of their care, but according to the Arizona Daily Sun, some students stop taking their pills once they're away from the watchful eyes of their parents.

Psychiatrist Bruce Cohen told the Arizona Daily Sun that some students don't want to be seen as a problem so they don't like to ask for help. When these kids go off to college and are on their own, being busy sometimes results in them forgetting to take their meds or wanting to see what life is like without them. When students stop taking meds, they don't notice a problem right away, which makes them think they never needed them.

“A few days you don’t take it and you don’t feel terrible,” Cohen said. “So you think maybe you don’t need it.”

A study about medication found that prescriptions for adolescents rose from 14% in the 1990s to 20% in the mid-2000s. 

“We are now able to help students enough that they actually get into college, whereas 20 years ago, they wouldn’t have,” Cohen said.

Psychologist Matthew Wintersteen told the Arizona Daily Sun that students in college want to be viewed as independent and may not want to acknowledge having a mental illness. The idea of feeling like they have to take meds is challenging for them because of these reasons.

But when students are pushed into new environments and aren't taking medicine, this can result in extended periods of anxiety or depression, and students may also try to self-medicate with alcohol or drugs. To fight this problem, doctors suggest parents talk to their kids before they go to college about medication and counseling.